I knew Cal at City as a bold, friendly and committed member of Pride Soc, a role model who gave me courage to embrace my own non-binary identity. During my Oxford application process they kindly hosted me at St John’s and gave me crucial insights into trans life at Oxford. Throughout my undergrad years we would meet at alumnae events and exchange friendly messages and Christmas cards. Most recently it was lovely to reconnect with them and Immi at the CLSG Pride Soc reunion. I had looked forward to seeing them again and was so pleased at how well they seemed to be doing. I wish I could have done something to help. Like everyone whose life they touched, I will carry Cap’s memory with me for the rest of my life, and cherish all the kindness they showed me and all I learned from them.